Reclaiming Rage and Truth
Somewhere along the way, you were taught that anger was a problem.
Ugly. Unladylike. Dangerous.
You learned to swallow it, spiritualize it, demonise it, or smile through it.
Because good girls don’t get angry—they get quiet. They get polite. They get small.
But here’s the truth:
You can’t heal what you won’t feel.
And beneath your numbness, people-pleasing, and burnout is a fire that was never meant to die.
It’s time to reclaim it.
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The Fear of Being “Too Much”
Anger is one of the first emotions girls are taught to suppress.
We’re allowed to be sad, maybe even a little anxious—but not angry.
Not loud. Not direct. Not disruptive.
Why?
Because anger is power.
And power in the hands of women who know themselves is threatening.
So instead, we’re taught to:
• Cry instead of rage
• Apologize instead of confront
• Freeze instead of fight
• Smile instead of scream
And it works—for a while.
Until your body starts holding what your voice won’t say.
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What Your Anger Is Trying to Tell You
Anger is not the enemy.
It is the alarm system of your soul.
It tells you when something is off.
When a boundary has been crossed.
When you’ve been silent too long.
Anger says:
• “This isn’t fair.”
• “That hurt me.”
• “I need to be seen.”
• “Something needs to change.”
Your anger is not a flaw—it’s a signal.
It doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re awake.
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Reclaiming Rage as Sacred
When women reclaim their rage, they reclaim their voice.
They stop shrinking. They stop performing.
They stop playing by rules that were never written with their freedom in mind.
Rage doesn’t mean chaos—it means clarity.
It means finally telling the truth.
It means peeling back the “nice” mask and saying, I am not okay with this.
Your anger, when integrated—not weaponized—becomes fuel.
For boundaries. For justice. For healing. For joy.
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But What Will They Think?
Yes, people will be uncomfortable.
They’ll say you’ve changed. That you’re overreacting. That you’re angry again.
Let them.
Because the goal is not to be understood by people committed to misunderstanding you.
The goal is to be whole.
And sometimes, wholeness means letting yourself burn clean—so you can rise honest.
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Reflection Prompts:
• What did I learn about anger growing up?
• Where in my life am I suppressing rage to stay likable?
• What is my anger trying to teach or protect?
• What would it look like to express anger in a way that honors me?
